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Here’s a story of a father who spent months helping his daughter transition into college only to be repaid with games. After visiting a few colleges, his daughter tells him she’s settled on which college she wants to attend but won’t let him know.
A Surprise Twist
The original poster (OP), who we’ll refer to as Miles, flew out with his daughter Sadie for a college visit.
Sadie had been accepted to five colleges.
Narrowed College Choices
After Sadie settled on her top three choices, Miles and his wife spent the next few months helping her visit them.
Daughter Drops College Bombshell
Finally, Sadie was on her last college tour, and Miles came to help.
By this point, money had been spent on airline fares, hotels, and food. But it was all for a good cause, right?
Daughter’s Unexpected College Announcement
Miles didn’t know this, but the last college visit would challenge his relationship with Sadie.
Miles and Sadie proceeded to go on their last college tour, which went great. After the tour, they went to grab lunch.
Here’s where things spiraled downward.
Family Bonding Interrupted
Sadie told her dad that “she’d made up her mind.”
In a happy mood, Miles asked his daughter which college she’d settled on. To his surprise, Sadie told her dad she was not going to tell him.
Daughter Springs College Decision on Parents
Shortly after Miles received this unhelpful answer from Sadie, he texted his wife.
Miles’s wife wasn’t happy. She was upset that Sadie was leaving them in the dark after all the time and money they had invested.
“…We’ve spent a great deal of money with trips, airline fare, hotels, meals, etc. for all of this.”
A Mix of Emotions
The next morning, Miles was at the airport, ready to head home with his daughter, when more salt was added to the wound.
Sadie told Miles that she enjoyed the fact that her withholding her college choice was getting on his “nerves.”
No More Games
Miles explained to Sadie that he was only trying to help her.
Sadie had deadlines to send money for housing. The longer she waited to let her parents know which college she’d settled on, this would be an issue.
After some back and forth, Sadie became frustrated that she was being guilted into telling Miles her college choice.
Instead, she gave both parents the silent treatment.
What People Really Think About College
“But I think this is a good opportunity for her to experience the consequences of her actions. Stop asking, stop complaining, stop saying anything about college to her.”
“Is waiting until the end of the week really going to make a difference in your ability to plan out payment though? I totally agree that this is silly and juvenile on the part of your daughter, but a few extra days shouldn’t really impact you, right?
“Worst case scenario your daughter gets less preferred housing, and she’ll just have to deal with it.”
More Truth From the Public
“Came here to say this. Adult-level education can start before college. Just for ‘fun’ OP, once she tells you, tell her it will take 4 to 6 weeks processing…”
Unplanned College Announcement
College is an important chapter in many people’s lives.
During these important chapters, family is often there to support us. In Sadie’s case, both parents offered their emotional and financial support.
Ultimately, Sadie told her parents which college she’d decided on, but many argued her guessing games weren’t necessary.
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