Judi did 2nd city improv at the Training Center Conservatory in Chicago and now teaches others the benefits of managing fear to build their confidence. She's the CEO of Holla Productions, a keynote speaker, and author of her latest book "Fear is my Homeboy."
Making fear your homeboy is befriending your fear.
It means taking action despite our fear and it begins when we shift our focus. Being fearless should never be the goal.
Your goal is to manage fear and doing this will help you fear, fear less. The only way we can do this is by building our fear muscle–similar to lifting weights in the gym. This idea of picking up discomfort and welcoming in discomfort really allows you to get more comfortable in the uncomfortable, which is how you end up fearing fear less.
I teach this idea that we’ve got to get uncomfortable every day. This could be small things like not snoozing the alarm or taking a cold shower.
It begins when you start trusting yourself.
We have to trust ourselves and we learn this really quickly in the Improv theater. No mistakes, only gifts. I think we get so worried about failing or being judged or being disliked or made fun of.
The reality is these people are already judging us. They are already making fun of us. They are already not liking us. We might as well give them something to talk about because people are already judging us.
My second tip is to remember when we think about putting ourselves out there we’re original. We want your story, your lessons, your twist on things because no one is you and this is always your power.
It’s easy to feel guilty about prioritizing your needs because we don’t want to let other people down.
What helps me not feel guilty about creating a schedule that allows me to move my life and my business forward is by realizing that I am the boss and nothing works unless I do. I am a business first and foremost. People that will benefit the most from me taking care of this business are the people I love the most.
I’m always asking myself every morning “what is one small step forward I can take?” Many times we jump right into an email or social, managing everybody else’s to-do list. This is a big shift to make and a critical one if you really want to manage the business of who you are.
I personally work with three coaches.
I’d found all three of these coaches on social media. I’d started listening to conversations happening online from people I follow and asked those who were crushing it who they’d work with.
You also find people over time, as you evolve with your business.
I’d advise staying alert. Know your environment. Ask other people who are crushing it, who they work with.
Since most people are “busy” I lead into this idea of micro mentoring. Micro mentoring is asking one question at a time to people in your network getting answers to your problems. It’s about doing homework on the front end and being respectful of someone else’s time.
Don’t just ask a question to a stranger. Provide value and build relationships with other people that you’d love to be mentored by.
I would’ve started paying myself first sooner to feel the rewards of compound interest.
I would’ve also started speaking sooner.
We have to manage the fear around money by getting in control and taking action.
Taking one small step forward is all it takes to build confidence in pick up momentum. And, it’s never too late to start.
Freedom to do the work I love, with people I like.
Chris writes personal finance and productivity articles for software companies. He gets fresh ideas through continuously investing in himself and interviewing successful entrepreneurs.