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When this man’s daughter got engaged, he excitedly offered to pay for the wedding. However, his joy dwindled when his daughter announced that she didn’t want him to walk her down the aisle.
The original poster (OP), whom we’ll refer to as Josh, is a middle-aged father with a teenage daughter, Laura.
Raising a Daughter to Think for Herself
Josh and his wife raised Laura to be an independent thinker, which Laura’s parents loved; however, it would eventually backfire.
The Wedding Snag
Recently, Laura got engaged, and Josh, without hesitation, offered to pay for Laura’s wedding. However, things quickly went south when Laura told Josh she didn’t want him to walk her down the aisle.
A New Perspective on the Father’s Role
Laura’s justification for this was that her parents don’t own her. Therefore, they are not giving her away.
A Clash of Values
Laura’s statement hurt Josh because he and his wife never considered Laura an object. On the contrary, they did all they could to provide Laura with a wonderful life.
Balancing Respect and Personal Feelings
Josh concluded that he would respect his daughter’s decision but now had mixed feelings about paying for her wedding. Seeing as Laura wasn’t going to turn back on her decision, Josh told Laura that he would no longer be paying for her wedding.
Josh didn’t intend to manipulate Laura’s decision by not paying for the wedding. However, he no longer felt good about it after hearing Laura’s statement.
Josh explained, “So, this isn’t about making the wedding about me. Walking her down the aisle (while all eyes are on her anyway) and then sitting down is hardly making the wedding about me. It’s about her attitude.
“She’s had every opportunity in life so far, and to exclude us from this day is a spit in the face. It’s a rejection of everything we’ve done for her, sacrificed for her, given her. It’s selfish.”
An Independent Daughter
One commenter said, “You heard her. She is independent. Independent people deal with their own bills.”
Having More than One Shot
A cynical user replied, “She’s 19 and getting married, odds are you’ll have more chances.”
Walking Daughter In the Future
A third person emphasized, “This! She’s soooo independent so she can pay for her own wedding. And then when she’s a little older and wiser and a less [sic] of a teenager, you can walk her down the aisle for her second wedding.”
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